Stephanie seeks lofty challenges both personally and professionally:
She sparkles with authenticity and is a passionate advocate for intimacy.
"Your heart is expansive and your patience, presence and curiosity brilliant." -Katy, 2017
"Stephanie is a great example of strong leadership; she continues to amaze and inspire me. She is authentic and vulnerable and sets the tone with her commitment, pushing the limits of her own self-awareness and resolving her challenges while always considering what is constructive for all involved."
"Thinking of you with so much love and esteem! Thinking of your gentle compassion and the beauty with which you wield your fierce strength and truth.” -Beth, 2017
"You are a natural and have already shown me what it looks like to be great while being in relationship. You are the real deal." -Claudia, 2016
"Some of what I have witnessed in Stephanie is: a depth of compassion; a genuine desire to know and care for individuals; the ability to see many perspectives in a situation and honor the other person's needs and concerns as much (if not more than) her own; kindness and love, commitment to wanting to improve; willingness to do the difficult work of such improvement; unwavering commitment, loyalty and love; humility, acceptance, and accountability for her mistakes, her challenges, her humanity, and her truth; and powerful vulnerability- a willingness to be seen as a 'work in progress', which I believe is a powerful strength." -Brandy, 2017
Love is abundant, expansive, life-affirming, and magnetic.
Fear, while sometimes healthy, is often life-diminishing. It is our body's way of protecting us- keeping us safe, away from the unknown that change brings.
"Courage is a love affair with the unknown."
It is by stepping into the unknown that we grow.
We cannot pretend to know what another is enduring or has endured; their circumstances are not our own.
Judgement innately separates us into "us" and "them", which leads to "less than/better than" and "need to be seen as". It is this "need to be seen as" that prevents us from being in authentic relationships.
Instead, meet others with unconditional positive regard.
Replace judgement with compassion...and if you can't access compassion, start with curiosity.
Wouldn't you rather be loved for who you are (struggles and all) rather than loved for who you pretend to be (showing a facade that hides those struggles)?
There is nothing shameful about struggles; we all have them. Connection with another happens when we embrace our humanity, not our infallibility.